Why is everything for some and nothing for me?

Comparing yourself and your achievements with other people is considered quite normal. But at the same time, often such an assessment leads to the fact that an understanding comes that everything is much worse for you than for those others. This is naturally frustrating. And the question arises, why is this happening?

And to be completely frank, this question sounds something like this: “Why do I need such a good, such a shitty life?”. And indeed, it seems that the person seems to be not bad, but there is a lot of negativity in his life.

Usually, the search for reasons in such a situation leads to the fact that life itself, fate or, in extreme cases, the surrounding people become guilty. After all, it is obvious that if I think that I am right in my actions and desires, and at the same time I am unhappy, then it is definitely not my fault.

And following this train of thought, a person convinces himself that life is unfair to him and he is a victim of circumstances. At the same time, such a person definitely does not want to admit that in this story he himself is the author. He is only indignant and denies any possibility that he himself is to blame.

Interestingly, such people usually have a lot of beliefs that life owes something to this person. But in reality, he received nothing. And as a result, he has a feeling that he was “not given enough”, but they should have been. Life, fate, everything owes him.

At the same time, such a state of the victim becomes so familiar to him that sometimes he cannot even see the possibility of correcting the situation. And the point here is precisely that a person is 100% convinced that he is doing everything right.

Even comparing himself with others, he does not want to accept that those others have a different motivation, and accordingly perform other actions. Moreover, it is motivation in this case that will be of paramount importance. This is the answer to the question “Why do you need this?”. At the same time, motivation directs and determines the choice of a mode of action.

Another feature of such people is that their criticism is rarely adequate. Even when that very life offers them the opportunity to change, such people most often look for a catch in…

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